Modern Relationship

Kenny just posted an entry relating to, shall I say, the complication of modern relationship.

Obviously he doesn't agree well to what his ladies' friend had commented on how one should handle such relationships.

The fact of life is the relationships nowadays are so much different from the ones our parents been through. Back then, there ain't 5Cs, no TV glorifying promiscuity, no FHM and there are only men in offices.

The value in our society has totally evolved. Divorce is a norm and single parent are everywhere.

But what he got rattled by from his friends, I got rattled by his closing thought.

That's why I plan to marry late, so I could get all the fooling and flirting around out of my system before I commit to one woman and one woman only, for the rest of my life, till death do us part.

Well, this is like trying to sleep as much as one can now so that one doesn't have to sleep anymore in the future.

I'm not advocating that we should go down the road of deterioriating the few strains of makes our relationship nowadays.

Just that the approach to the modern relationship doesn't work no more.

He started to have doubts in his mind, but when he came home to his messy house, his wrinkle-infested overweight wife and his Dolby Surround Sound™ bawling child, he's gonna wonder what the hell is he doing with his life. Outside, there's a young sexy lady wanting to blow his mind, and he's turning her down for the sake of morality? Screw morality!

My point here isn't the extreme opposite spectrum of the comparision. It's how the hell so much time was given for the house to become messy, for the wife to get all crumpled and for the kid to escalate into Mega Bass mode WITHOUT any intervention in the mid of the process?

Putting this into national context and it is akin to our PAP not seeking other engine of growth back when the industralisation evolution was heading downhill.

In a company context, that would be something like continuing the service of a worker whose's productivity has always remained stagnant for the past 20 years.

More than ever before, the need to reinvent & refresh oneself has became paramount.

• Messy house? Clean it.
• Wrinkles? Botox
• Noisy kids? Discipline

Dullness set in so fast now that playing catch-up is no longer a choice to maintain or sustain status quo.

But still, many people would not just take the foot off the pedal but completely turn off the engine espcially once the marriage cert is signed.

Image is gone & manners out the window and being replaced by weight. And sometimes lotsa it.

A cynical perception that there is no need to do any maintanence. What for leh. Married already bah.

Well, try taking a laid back approach to your new job once you secure it. I'm sure your boss will reciprocate like your partner does.

Postnote - Shelly on the same topic.